The erocism has always been one of the biggest, strongest, natural traits of being a human. Of course, it all started with a need for procreation. As unbelievable as it sounds, there is a huge possibility, that if extending our species would not be connected to any sort of pleasure, we would simply…Not do that a lot, or at least not enough to actually survive. But then, naturally, pleasure is always connected with desire, and desire with consumptionism, which quite swiftly exchanged most of our needs for wants. However, is it really wrong? The answer is much more interesting then you’d think.
Desire – our friend, or the enemy?
There is no one answer for this question. When it comes to sexual desire itself, it shouldn’t be shame full – it’s natural. As everything in this world, it cannot be big enough to consume us completely, other then that though, it’s a normal thing. We often feel a need for sexual activities simply to feel pleasure, and that is very much okay. We live in the XXI century, and no longer have to feel embarrassed for having needs of such sort. There is many forms of devices created specifically to entertain us – one of them, the most common perhaps, is obviously porn. There are other forms of sexual amusement created by the industry, for us to enjoy at home, that brings equal pleasure and satisfaction – pornographic magazines, erotic stories and toys, even video games! But there is a certain taboo put on all of this by the society, which for example created an opinion among some groups of people, that using any forms of this kind of eroticism, is something that exclusively lonely people do. Is that really a fact?
Is eroticism used by lonely people only?
Of course not, and saying so is spreading information’s, that simply aren’t true at all. As it has been mentioned before, consumptionism made our needs our wants, which lead to creating more and more developments of sexual desires. And it’s perfectly fine. After all, sexual activities are supposed to be fun and enjoyable. Having certain desires helps to achieve that. Many couples use eroticism to spice things up a bit, depending on what in particular excites them. There are for example many people who enjoy watching their partner masturbate, and so actively watch porn together. Moreover, people in sexually active and healthy relationships, often masturbate when they’re on their own too. You don’t have to be lonely to enjoy yourself and actively watch porn videos or use other forms of eroticism. Everybody, or at least most of the people, does that, and there is no shame in doing so at all.
Eroticism versus taboo
Masturbation and enjoying sexual activities on your own has been shamed by the society for far too long. It’s just fulfilling our basic biological needs – nothing more. This stigma formed a harmful opinion (which is also only leading to increasing the level of embarrassment and shame put on everyone) that if you enjoy such devices as pornyou must be a lonely person. As it has been proven in this text before, this never was or will be the truth. It’s healthy to fulfill your sexual desires in a safe, non-hurt full manner and it doesn’t matter if you do that while in a relationship or not. All types of people do that, and to say that using eroticism is the trait of lonely people is a huge mistake.Is eroticism the domain of the lonely?